A few weeks ago, I laid the tombstones in the ground for my mother and father-in-law. They died before I ever met them. We checked to see how the graves looked. We found that someone drove straight over their tombstones that stood several inches above the ground and left a big track over the grave. This got me thinking that not everyone was taught manners concerning the deceased. So here's a few rules:
1. No eating, drinking, or tobacco use over the grave. This reduces the chance of litter on the grave. The exception is graveled or paved areas. Just make sure litter is properly disposed of.
2. If the grave is surrounded by bricks or stones, the family does not want their grave disturbed for any reason.
3. Change artificial flowers every 2 - 4 months so that they won't appear ratty.
4. Drive slowly, as if you were in a funeral procession.
5. Turn your radio off.
6. Singing hymns are okay if done without any amplification. This is a popular tradition in the mountains during decoration. (Some churches call it "homecoming").
7. Anything with wheels needs to stay off grassy areas.